Tuesday, June 4, 2013

Choices, Choices...

Daughter is finished with school for a few months, but we're still working on some things together. She has a workbook to do to help "bridge the gap" between the grades. I'm reading to her; she's reading to me; we're doing character studies. In my readings to her, we read from the Bible, a book we love from her curriculum this past year called I Heard Good News Today, and other books as she requests and we have time. I got a whole bunch of character studies (about ten?) from Confessions of a Homeschooler (www.confessionsofahomeschooler.com) and thought this summer would be a good time to use them.

Last week's character study was on humility (vs. shifting blame and making excuses). Daughter was interested in the topic and was ready to discuss and talk about examples of situations with me. One day, we were talking about taking responsibility for our own actions and words, and not blaming others. We were talking about how some people in the Bible had blamed others and what the consequences were for their choices. For example, Adam blamed Eve for giving him the fruit. Eve blamed the serpent for tricking her. Aaron blamed the Israelite people for forcing him to make a golden calf for them to worship.

I don't remember exactly how it came up or how it was worded, but Daughter said something about God knowing beforehand what each of these individuals were going to do. Then she asked something like, "If God already knew that they were going to choose the wrong thing, then why did He allow it?"

I told her that God gives us choices. He doesn't want to force us to love Him - He wants it to be our choice, because wouldn't it mean more to both us and Him that way? I told her that it's like me asking her if she wants ice cream or watermelon? I know what her answer is going to be (ice cream) but I still ask and allow her to make the choice herself. Then I asked her if she would rather be kind to her brother or hit him and receive a consequence? She said she'd rather be kind. I pointed out again that, although I knew what her answer would be (not wanting a consequence), I still gave her the opportunity to make her own decision.

Later in the day, Daughter asked why the tree (of the knowledge of good and evil - the forbidden one) was in the Garden of Eden and why God would have even put it there. Why wouldn't He just remove all sin. We talked again about how God gives us choices. We must learn to trust Him and not ourselves. We will love more purely if it's our choice and not forced upon us.


A similar topic came up this evening as we were reading about Cain and Abel in the Bible (Genesis 4) - when Cain killed Abel and then God asked, "Where is your brother, Abel?" Daughter asked why God had to ask where Abel was? Instead of answering her directly, I asked what she thought about it. She said God was giving him a choice. Good answer, Daughter! Yes, God knew, but He gave Cain the opportunity to own up to his sins, to turn from them and repent. Instead, Cain chose to answer angrily to God and lie about it saying, "I don't know," adding yet another sin to his list (anger, murder, lying...).


So, what choices are you making? Are you choosing God and His ways?


But if serving the LORD seems undesirable to you, then choose for yourselves this day whom you will serve, whether the gods your ancestors served beyond the Euphrates, or the gods of the Amorites, in whose land you are living. But as for me and my household, we will serve the LORD." - Jeremiah 24:15

"No one can serve two masters. Either you will hate the one and love the other, or you will be devoted to the one and despise the other. You cannot serve both God and money. - Matthew 6:24

You adulterous people, don't you know that friendship with the world means enmity against God? Therefore, anyone who chooses to be a friend of the world becomes an enemy of God. - James 4:4